What Parents Should Know About High-Functioning Anxiety in Kids

While not an official clinical diagnosis, high-functioning anxiety is a term used to describe individuals who experience anxiety symptoms but are still able to perform daily tasks and even excel in them.

Imagine a swan gliding gracefully across a lake: calm above water, yet paddling frantically beneath the surface. Externally, your child may seem like they have it all together - organized, driven, and responsible. But underneath that appearance, they may be working much harder than you think just to stay afloat. This is the often-overlooked world of high-functioning anxiety.

What Does High-Functioning Anxiety Look Like In Kids?

In children, the signs can be subtle and easily mistaken for personality traits such as being “a little shy,” “a perfectionist,” or “very responsible.” Since these kids often do well in school and follow the rules, their anxiety can go unnoticed.

Here are some common signs to watch for:

• Excessive worry or fear, even about small things

• Overthinking, needing constant reassurance

• Restlessness

• Irritability

• Trouble sleeping or frequent nightmares

• Physical complaints, like stomachaches or headaches

• Nervous habits, such as nail biting, hair twirling, or leg shaking

• Fear of failure, which can lead to procrastination or avoidance

What Can Parents Do?

If you recognize these signs in your child, start with a conversation. Let them know it is okay to feel worried or nervous sometimes and that you are there to help support them.

Here are a few steps you can take:

• Talk to your pediatrician. They can help determine if your child could benefit from speaking with a mental health professional.

• Use calming techniques at home. Breathing exercises, movement breaks, and mindfulness can help kids feel more empowered and in control.

• Encourage open conversations. Make space for your child to share their worries without judgment.

How ShineALot Can Help

At ShineALot, we believe emotional wellness is just as important as physical health. That’s why our personalized children's books feature Lumie, a trusted character who helps children learn calming tools like imitative play and guided imagery. While not a replacement for professional care, they can be a helpful addition to your child’s emotional toolbox.

We also provide parents with additional tips to help their child. Make the calming techniques taught in our personalized books part of your child’s daily routine with Lumie’s Lessons on our website.

Final Thoughts

Kids with high-functioning anxiety may not look like they are struggling on the outside, but that does not mean they are not struggling internally. With support and the right tools, you can help your child build self-confidence. 

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